Spontaneity tends to get a bad rap. Spontaneous behavior can be seen as being flaky, irresponsible, or immature. On the other hand, staying in our comfort zone leads to monotony, and staleness. We may believe that we are happy in our comfort zone, but on closer examination, we are more likely feeling the absence of anxiety. Routine is a way for us to believe we have everything under control in this unpredictable world.
Happiness is not about the absence of anxiety, but about successfully navigating through life’s challenges, stretching our boundaries, and facing our fears. Think about peak experiences. How many people would describe their daily routine as a peak experience? No one!! Climbing a mountain, white water rafting, successfully giving a big speech, mastering a skill are the stuff that leads to peak experiences.
This is not to say that routine is to be avoided, but instead that a healthy dose of spontaneity keeps us growing, feeling alive, and living a dynamic life. So, go ahead, make a leap, take a chance, do something that feels uncomfortable in the name of growth!